Have Evolved !
There can be absolutely no doubt, that We are Evolved !
We have achieved amazing progress..Our lives have been enriched by the rapid breakthroughs in manufacturing, transportation and computing. No single part of our life has been left untouched by this progress .
All this has been possible only because we as humans have a unique ability to respond multidimensionally to changes around. This is in stark contrast to the limited fight, flight or freeze responses of animals. While they may be larger, stronger or faster than us, only humans, with our prodigious sensation gathering and processing and presenting capabilities, can respond and adapt so quickly. In fact, language, a by-product of this capability, is the foundation of our entire progress,
If this ability to adapt is so unique to us, shouldn’t it evident that the purpose of evolution itself was to improve the way we relate to changes in our environment?
If, evolution was for the purpose of improving or ability to relate, then rightly so, from our first to our last breath, we should be immersed in relations. Being the source of all our joys and sorrows, relationships are the only tangible experience of our lives itself.
Their importance notwithstanding, surprisingly we face great difficulty in handling them. This is despite the fact that each of us actually have relatively few close relationships. In fact, the malaise is so prevalent, that over time, some of us have resigned ourselves to believing that distraught relationships are our destiny!
If we believe that relating is all about communicating, isn’t it about time we re-examined our beliefs about the process of communication itself?
Communication is defined as ‘the imparting or exchanging of information by speaking, writing, or using some other medium.’
Most of us have spent many years educating ourselves on ways and means to become effective communicators. We have learned to speak many languages, mastered the art of delivering presentations and making pitches. News, advertising and media have flourished in our lifetime. All are a testimony to our finely honed ability to communicate. There can be no doubt that not only all of us are good communicators, but with the aid of technology we can get in touch with anyone, anytime and anywhere.
So if our inability to communicate is not the hindrance, could there be something we are missing ?
Relating is about communicating and listening !
If the problem is not about communications, could listening possibly hold the key ?
Relationships need listening to create abundance and thrive. It’s no wonder that listening is the cornerstone of personal and organisational fulfilment. While there are many means of achieving success in the medium and short term, sustainable abundance in relationships is possible only through listening.
Don’t get us wrong. It’s not that speech and action are unimportant, but rather, that listening always precedes them.
By the word listening, we are obviously not referring only to physical act of hearing. We are referring to a paying attention with one’s entire being.
Surely, we all remember the last time we communicated.
But, when was that last time we really listened to another?
Assess the quality of your listening, by answering the simple questions. It's best that you use it to reflect on your listening style in the relationship you most want fulfilled.
For accurate results, please answer based on your actual response, rather than an image you would like to project.
When in doubt
The quality of listening varies from person to person, and from situation to situation. For one set of relationship-situation combine there are four basic types of Listening types. Based on depth of engagement, the listening could be either, a) to Hear, b) to Serve, c) to Care or last but not the least, d) to Love.
Could one quickly improve skills by simply emulating the visible traits of experts ?
To get an answer, let's understand how industry leaders listen-in to their customers. They do so by investing billions of dollars into activities like data mining, big data, data analytics, or deep learning tools, all of which are not perceptible to their customers. While the results of Deep Listening are tangible, the activity of listing is, by itself intangible.
All relationships need depth. Not only to survive, but to evolve & thrive.
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